Over the past several months, we’ve been asked the question “So, how’s the adoption going?” more times than I can count. I love when people ask about the adoption, but I don’t always know what to say. My standard answer lately has been “We’re still just waiting.” I feel like I need to give more of an explanation, but I don’t really want to pour my heart and soul out to everyone who casually asks for an update. So, I want you to know what I really mean when I say that we’re just waiting.
Waiting is not a strength of mine. Patience is definitely not one of my virtues, but I’m trying to rise to James’ challenge to “let patience have her perfect work”. Because, I know that in all of this waiting, there is a work being done. It’s not something that we can see right now, but it will all be evident in God’s time. In the meantime, here’s what I’m really saying when I tell you that “We’re still just waiting”:
- We are praying. This experience has driven us to pray more fervently than we ever have in our lives. I find myself praying randomly throughout the day for our little one – the one we have longed for and dreamed of for so many years now. But, we’ve also felt such a burden for the woman who will suffer such a great loss through our gain: our child’s Birthmother. We pray for her salvation, for her healing, for her peace. There is so much to pray for, so we feel that it is vital that we continue to pray fervently as God is working.
- We are seeking. We need wisdom. There have been adoption opportunities that we’ve pursued and they fell through and others we have felt strongly about not pursuing. This has been so hard, and it’s going to get harder the longer we wait, so we are seeking for God’s guidance. Please pray that the Lord would continue to lead us in a plain path.
- We are living. We don’t believe that God’s Will for our lives is somewhere in the future when we finally receive the desire of our hearts. We believe that God has something for us to do right now, so we are living in the present. Don’t get me wrong, I dream of the day when I can hold my sweet baby. I am beyond thrilled about what our future holds, but we don’t want to live so much in the future that we miss the blessings that God has for us right now.
- We are hurting. There are days that we struggle with the wait, and that’s okay. There is nothing wrong with hurting as long as we take those struggles to the Lord. The adoption process has been an emotional rollercoaster. We’ve had some exciting days filled with hope and joy. And we’ve experienced some of the lowest points in our lives. But, through it all, we understand that God is using both the joy and the sorrow to mold us, to test us, to bring us closer to Himself. We know that He will make everything beautiful in His time.
- We are hoping. We’ve been working on the nursery. This has been so much fun! Making this preparation makes us feel closer to our baby. We’ve had some people tell us that it’s probably not a good idea to start on the nursery this early in the process. That it could take up to two years to get a child, so it will be hard if it’s still sitting empty in a year. I understand what they’re saying, but we’re so full of hope. We can’t help but make preparations for what God is going to do. Please pray for us. It could be a long wait, but we don’t want to ever get to a place where we lose hope.
- We are sharing. 2 Corinthians 1:4 “Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.” The Lord has brought people into our lives who have been such a blessing to us. They’ve given us hope through their adoption stories. They’ve prayed with us and cried with us. They’ll never know how much God has used them in our lives. And I’m so thankful that we’ve had the opportunity to share the same comfort with others who are going through it with us right now. I know that I will love sharing our adoption story when it’s fully revealed, but we have a chapter to tell right now. It’s a chapter called “Just Waiting”, and it’s so much more than it seems.